The first component to achieving something is picking it.
It could be anything.
It could be getting a better job.
Or being a better person.
It has to be something tangible, but that is currently not tangible to you. In other words, it has to be something you currently don’t have.
This is why the foundation of all goals is faith. And this isn’t a religious type of faith, although it could be.
Faith is simply having a belief or hope in something you can’t see or that doesn’t currently exist.
If you can’t hold it in your hand and you want it, you need faith to get it.
Faith can only exist if you actually believe you can get what you want. If you don’t believe you can get a better job or be a better person, then you can’t have the faith to create that goal. You may set that goal, but you will never achieve it.
This is where psychology and even learning theory come in. People who don’t believe they can do something have what psychologists call a “fixed” mindset. These people have been over-sold on the idea of having a domineering “identity” that cannot change. Nature is god and nothing can be nurtured.
Unfortunately, years and years of research continues to show that people with a fixed mindset struggle in life. They have lower self-esteem. Why wouldn’t they? They believe they are stuck and can’t do anything about it. Their fate was set at birth. Moreover, the research shows that people with a fixed mindset have a really, really hard time learning. Why learn if you don’t believe you can actually learn and evolve?
According to 50 years of research on learning theory, we all have a dominant learning style. We all also have several backup learning styles we rely on when we’re in a difficult situation. However, there are also several other learning styles that each of us neglect and avoid.
Some of these learning styles include:
- Imagining: which involves coming up with ideas
- Reflecting: which involves learning about the ideas you come up with
- Analyzing: which involves synthesizing what you’re learning and making strategic plans about what to do with those ideas
- Deciding: which involves making a decision on ONE WAY you will go with a specific idea
- Acting: which involves DOING SOMETHING toward the attainment of your idea
- Experiencing: which involves learning from multiple angles, whether that be with other people, creating something, failing, or attempting
If you skip any of these learning styles, you’re not likely to get very far. But that’s exactly what we all do. We all have learning preferences. We all prefer to do things our way.
Interestingly, most people have a growth mindset about the learning style they are comfortable with. For example, if you like math and learn in analytical ways, you probably believe you can get better at math. You probably approach challenges and failures as opportunities to grow. You probably seek out mentoring, education, and help. You’re probably curious and seeking to expand your knowledge and horizon about that thing.
However, most people have a fixed mindset about the learning styles they aren’t comfortable with. For example, if you don’t like writing, you probably believe you can’t get better at it. There are some things you simply can’t learn. They aren’t in your DNA or something, right?