Why Most People Will Never Be Successful
“Success” isn’t just having lots of money. Many people with lots of money have horribly unhappy and radically imbalanced lives.
Success is continuously improving who you are, how you live, how you serve, and how you relate.
So why won’t most people be successful?
Why don’t most people evolve?
The more evolved you become, the more focused you must be on those few things which matter most. Yet, as Jim Rohn has said, “A lot of people don’t do well simply because they major in minor things.”
To be successful, you can’t continue being with low-frequency people for long periods of time.
You can’t continue eating crappy food, regardless of your spouse’s or colleague’s food choices.
Your days must consistently be spent on high-quality activities.
The more successful you become — which is balancing the few essential things (spiritual, relational, financial, physical) in your life and removing everything else — the less you can justify low quality. As Greg McKeown has said, “You cannot overestimate the unimportance of practically everything.”
Before you evolve, you can reasonably spend time with just about anyone.
You can reasonably eat anything placed in front of you.
You can reasonably justify activities and behaviors that are, frankly, mediocre.
As your vision for yourself expands, you realize you have to make certain adjustments. You need to cut back on spending all of your money and time on crap and entertainment. You have to save more, and invest more in your education and your future.
The more successful you become, the less you can justify low quality. The more focused you must become. The more consistently your daily behaviors must be high quality — and increasingly higher quality.
This isn’t about perfection. It’s definitely not about being busy all the time. Actually, the balance of true success involves what Tim Ferriss calls “mini-retirements” or regular sabbaticals.
Yet, if your daily behaviors are consistently low quality, what do you expect your life’s output to be?
Your choices must become higher quality.
Your relationships must become higher quality.
Every area of your life affects every other area of your life. Hence the saying, How you do anything is how you do everything. This is very high-level thinking. It only makes sense for people who have removed everything from their lives they hate. To actually live this principle: your daily and normal life can only be filled with those things you highly value.
In the important book, POWER VS. FORCE, Dr. David Hawkins details what he calls, “The Map of Consciousness.”
This map provides an easy way to see where a person is in their own emotional and spiritual development.
The level of your emotional frequency provides a score, 20-1,000.
The lower-level emotional states, which are all negative and lead to bad outcomes, are below 200.
- Shame (20 points)
- Guilt (30 points)
- Apathy (50 points)
- Grief (75 points)
- Fear (100 points)
- Desire (125 points)
- Anger (150 points)
- Pride (175 points)
Around 80% of the world live between fear and anger. That is where they are in their emotional development.
Because most people are operating in low-frequency emotional states, they aren’t happy.
They aren’t moving forward.
Their relationships aren’t evolving.
They are stagnating in most areas of their lives.
They aren’t making huge leaps in their spiritual, financial, and relational lives.
Most people are the byproduct of their social environment. They don’t want to rock the boat. They’d rather stay connected to what is familiar than embrace what they feel would be better.
It’s absolutely insane how limited people choose to be.
Even more, it’s insane how resistant people are to learning from their experience.
Dr. Hawkins and others have actually performed millions of tests using his map of consciousness and have found that, during the average lifespan, most people only go up 5 points during their lifetimes.
As Hawkins states in POWER VS. FORCE:
“The average advance in the level of consciousness throughout the global population is little more than five points during a lifetime. Apparently, from untold millions of individual experiences in one’s life, usually, only a few lessons are ever learned. The attainment of wisdom is slow and painful, and few are willing to relinquish familiar, even if inaccurate, views; resistance to change or growth is considerable. It would seem that most people are willing to die rather than alter those belief systems which confine them to lower levels of consciousness.”
Only when you reach the level of 200 (courage) does your life start to become more honest, truthful, and powerful.
Courage is the doorway.
The higher emotional stages, all of which attract success into your life, include the following:
- Courage (200 points)
- Trust (250 points)
- Optimism (310 points)
- Forgiveness (350 points)
- Understanding (400 points)
From courage to forgiveness, you will have a happy, productive, and successful life. You’ll stop being absorbed in your past. Your relationships will be healthy and prosperous.
You’ll continually move forward in your life.
Finances will stop being a major problem. You’ll know how to develop skills, relationships, knowledge, and success.
Childhood traumas, bad environments, and misinformation about the world will stop limiting you.
You’ll let all of that go and embrace much higher pathways of life.
You’ll learn your lessons.
You’ll stop repeating stupid mistakes and stop clinging to addictions for years or decades.
At the level of understanding, peak performance becomes a way of life. You’re tapped into your higher levels of awareness and ability.
You stop over-thinking things and allow creative power to flow through you.
The highest stages of emotional development include:
- Love (500 points)
- Gratitude (510 points)
- Joy (540 points)
- Peace (600 points)
- Enlightenment (700-1,000 points)
It’s important to note that, right now, you are at a level.
Everything in your inner and outer worlds reflects your current level of consciousness.
The food you eat.
The people you spend time with.
The types of entertainment you enjoy.
The types of thoughts you entertain.
What you focus on.
What you care about.
All of it.
You are at a level, and your life is the evidence.
The average person will only increase 5 points in their lifetime. The reason for this is because they aren’t learning from life.
How many times have you repeated the same mistake?
How many times have you said you’d stop that addiction?
How many years have you made the same income?
How often do you exercise courage?
How much gratitude to you truly embody and express?
Are you living in what Dan Sullivan calls the “gap” or the “gain”?
Do you feel deep and powerful love, not only for yourself but for those around you?
Do you actively seek to improve the lives of other people?
Are you caught in distraction or are you continually honing your priorities?
Do you engage in low-level media?
Your input shapes your outlook.
If you let even small doses of low-frequency information into your life, what do you think that does to you?
You’ve got to make a choice.
You’ve got to look at the bigger picture.
Where are your choices leading you?
Do you resonate with the person you are?
Does your current behavior reflect your future goals?
Are you acting FROM your desired future, or from your familiar past?
Are your standards going up in all areas, or are they about the same?
When your days are filled with only those core essentials that mean the world to you — and you’re succeeding in those few areas — you absolutely will dominate in “all” areas of your life. Because the only things in your life are the things you highly value. Everything else has slowly been weeded-out. You are living intentionally and congruently. You have momentum and balance. You’re being who you truly want to be, every single day.
To actually do this not only takes time, but is extremely hard to live in practice.
Saying “No” to great but irrelevant opportunities is hard.
Giving up bad habits is hard.
Changing your belief system and expanding your vision takes courage. It’s so easy to revert back to small and mediocre thinking.
However, as you come closer to living on a daily basis with your values and ideals, amazing things start to happen. You’ll feel happier. You’ll be more present with those you love. You’ll spend your time better. You’ll pursue bigger dreams and ambitions. You’ll be more resilient during challenges. You’ll live at a higher frequency. And everything around you will reflect that.
But to repeat Jim Rohn, “A lot of people don’t do well simply because they major in minor things.” Said another way, most people are caught in the thick of thin things.
Hence, most people won’t be successful. Most people won’t evolve and progress.
But you will. You know it, and you can feel it. You’ve already begun. And every day, you’re taking one step closer.
Soon enough, you’ll fully commit to being who you know you can be. Once you pass that point of no return, nothing will stop you.